Birthday, just because you're you, special surprise GIFTS for Girlfriends!

My first job out of college was in Houston TX. Not knowing anyone and having minimal funds, I spent almost every weekend at my girlfriend's apt. on the other side of town (which in Houston means it was an hour away). Neither of us had much discretionary income but we enjoyed just hanging out together, exploring our new home town and doing anything free we could find.

Paying college bills as well as adjusting to the real world, Paula and I had no money for Christmas gifts so we made up our own version of gifts. Before the internet and virtual worlds, we had virtual gifts. We didn't go shopping or hang out at a mall. We gave each other little symbols or cut-outs of gifts that we would have bought for each other, you know, like if we had won the lottery! It was a memorable holiday because we put thought into the 'gifts' and creatively presented each one.

Last week was my friend Cath's birthday. I love Cath and would enjoy nothing more than to give her a trip to somewhere with a fabulous beach or pay for something special that would make her days even sunnier like a gardener or weekly florist delivery. However, with $4/gallon of gas and other economic 'challenges,' those gifts will have to wait.

What do you do when you're unable to spend as much as you'd like on girlfriend gift? What gifts have you received from a creative girlfriend that didn't cost a bunch but meant so much? Please share in the comments.

Thanks Paula for that friendship and for being my thrifty friend when I really needed one! Thanks Cath too for understanding about the handmade necklace and recycled gifts!

NOTE: The photo above, Circle of Friends, is a gift of our girlfriend Caroline's site: HealingBaskets.com. We interviewed Caroline for a very inspiring podcast. Listen in for ideas on gifts especially for girlfriends in trying situations like loss, health issues, etc. She gives great girlfriend advice! And, her site has wonderful girlfriend, caregiver, sister, mom, coworker gifts!

Want some creative girlfriend gift ideas? Listen in!

I've said it before, I'll say it again. One of the best benefits to girlfriends is how much we all learn from each other. From little things like celebrity trivia (like ... who got kicked off Dancing With The Stars!?), to big things like how to take care of our health and our loved ones.

Each month we ask YOU for YOUR thoughts and stories on girlfriends in our monthly Girlfriendology Contest. In March, since it was National Craft Month, we asked for your comments on thoughtful, creative girlfriend gifts you've given or received. We received a bunch of entries and some fabulous female friend stories. Thanks for sharing!

Check out the newest podcast for the stories and the winners. You're sure to get some great ideas for being the girlfriend with the PERFECT gift. After all, if you can't get inspired by your girlfriends, you can't get inspired!

Alas, it is the ides of April (ooh - tax day!), and we're half way through the month and another contest is happening. This month, in honor of Earth Day and our awareness of all things green, we're asking YOU to 'recycle' your girlfriend stories! Share a story of a girlfriend who meant a lot to you as a child or teenager. Tell us about an amazing woman whose friendship has followed you through different periods of your life - and been there for you no matter what! Just enter the contest - there are prizes! And, if you're selected, we may call you to interview you for our podcast next month. (Tell us a great story and we'll HAVE to talk with you!) Thanks Girlfriends!

TIP TUESDAY #7 - Favorite gift you received from a girlfriend this holiday

First, forgive me. This is TIP TUESDAY - on a Thursday! That's what holidays and a new puppy will do to a girl! (The pup is great - I just want to spend all my time with him while he's still a pup!)

I just read some 'blog marketing' articles and one mentioned that your blog needs to 'provide a solution.' Well, if there is one thing girlfriends do for each other is provide solutions - we help each other through all kinds of problems and situations with creative ideas and recommendations. So, we're right on track with TIP TUESDAY (especially when we all share comments!).

Girlfriends ARE gifts, so we'd like to hear from you for this week's TIP TUESDAY question:

What is your favorite gift you received from a girlfriend this holiday?

I love hearing others' comments so that I can improve my gift giving skills - so
please add a comment - we want to hear from you!

I'll start ... My creative friend Jill gave me a meaningful book for creative women (so I know I'll love it!). Terri, my always thoughtful friend, gave me some "olives" (that are really chocolate covered almonds, since she knows I don't like olives but I do like chocolate and almonds!) as well as Eat Pray Love, another book I've heard about and need to read. My friend Tina gave me a beautiful pair of earrings to replace the ones I bought previously that I lost one of - how sweet was that! (Other girlfriends gave great gifts too - THANKS to all of you - especially for the GIFT of your friendship!)

What do all these gifts have in common? They were specifically selected for ME! Did your girlfriends do a great job of finding gifts that were perfect for YOU? Share your COMMENTS and help us all be better girlfriend gift givers!

TIP TUESDAY #5 - What's your last minute holiday shopping tip?

Today is my husband's birthday. I don't think they should let women have babies in December - it is too hard to come up with presents for that and for the holidays! "I don't need anything," he tells me. Well, that sure helps make shopping easy!

In addition to him and other family members, I am blessed with great girlfriends and need to shop for (or make) gifts for them. With extremely limited budget and time, my stress level starts to rise.

I've mentioned this book before but it comes to mind ... In The Tending Instinct, by Shelley Taylor, stress tests done on women show that we respond with "tend and befriend." Shopping is getting stressful, so I'm looking to my girlfriends for HELP!

This week's TIP TUESDAY question is:

"What shopping secrets do you have for hard-to-buy-for girlfriends and others?"

One of the best gifts of "girlfriendship" is that we learn so much from each other. Please, be a "Santa," and share your shopping secrets! Thanks girlfriends! Happy Shopping!!

p.s. Speaking of "gifts," this is the month of the Girlfriendology "Great Girlfriend Gift Giveaway." While you won't receive them in time to put them under the tree, you will have a nice gift for yourself or a friend in '08.

Contest Winner Poem - Does this remind you of your girlfriends?

You know that great feeling when you find the perfect gift for your best friend? And the joy you feel when you receive a present from your girlfriend that shows how special her friendship is to you! Girlfriends ARE gifts, and it is a wonderful thing when girlfriends GIVE thoughtful, special, memorable gifts!

Each month Girlfriendology has a contest for girlfriend stories. The theme changes every month and the November contest, in preparation for the holidays, was on 'gifts.' What gifts have you given to/received from a girlfriend that was special?

Thankfully lots of women wrote in with AMAZING STORIES. From simple acts of kindness to creative gifts, from thoughtful expressions of friendship to personalized presents that recognized their special day - it was inspiring! (Just in time for holiday shopping!)

The only negative to this monthly contest is not being able to give EVERYONE a prize* because there were many, many wonderful stories!. It was really tough judging the monthly Girlfriendology Contest!

Listen to the podcast (that will be posted soon!) to hear all the stories - the winners and those who still are winners because they are/have great girlfriends!

Thanks to everyone who participated in the November Girlfriendology Contest! Winners are: Christine - for her Thanksgiving basket, Cherie - pregnancy pampering girlfriend story, Jenny - for her caffeinated and thoughtful friend, Robin - with her charming charm bracelet story and Beth - for her beautiful best friend poem. Each of these winners will receive a $10 Starbucks gift card (to take their girlfriend out for coffee on Girlfriendology!) and Beth also receives the Girlfriendology Journal for her top entry girlfriend story:

Jackie's birthday was coming up and, being a best friend, Beth decided to write a poem and frame (with this picture of the two of them). This effort won her top prize (Starbucks gift card AND the Girlfriendology Journal) for the following poem she wrote for a valued friend ...

Once in a lifetime you'll find a friend you'll know you can never replace,
You'll feel it the moment you meet her - it's written all over her face.

Soon she begins to give of herself in ways you would never have known,
No friend you have been with before she appeared saved you so much from being alone.

She stands by your side through thick and through thin - through happiness, tears or regret,
You find yourself needing her more everyday, and all of her friendship you get.

She'd give her last dime to people in need, no matter if she needs it more,
You find yourself asking the Lord up above why He didn't give you her before.

If He had she'd have been there for birthdays forgotten by others you thought never would,
She'd have been there when others betrayed all your trust, convincing you life is still good.

She's the kind of a friend you can trust with your soul - you can trust her, in fact, with your life,
She's a sister, a mother, a co-worker too, a grandma and even a wife.

Yet she still finds the time on her busiest days to stop and check in just to say,
"I haven't been hearing from you in a while - please tell me friend, are you okay"?

There is nothing you know you can do for this friend to let her know how much you care,
For her friendship, her kindness, your constant belief that you know she will always be there.

How do you say to a friend such as this that you're thankful for all she has done?How do you show her the love that you have for a friendship, no doubt's, number one?

How do you put into words what you feel for this friend that you love, oh so much?
A woman who's hand on a shoulder in need clears up sadness with one little touch?

I guess you just feel it and she'll know it's true - she can read you right down to the core,
And you hope when she does that she'll see her own face staring out from your heart evermore.

This friend I call Jackie, the one that I love, who has been there for me all this time,
Is the greatest of friends that you ever can have - I'm so thankful to God that she's mine.

Thanks Beth for the poem and to Jackie for being poem-worthy! Thanks to everyone who submitted great girlfriend stories!

* And, since we're getting so many great stories AND it is the season for giving gifts, we've designated December as the Girlfriendology "Great Girlfriend Gift Giveaway"! Each day in December, everyone who submits a girlfriend story will go into a drawing for a free book/gift. In addition, the top five stories will win a $10 Starbucks gift card (to take you and a girlfriend out for coffee) and the top over all will win the Girlfriendology Journal. See Girlfriendology for the rules/information. Then write us! I'm sure you have a girlfriend who deserves to be recognized for her friendship (and you deserve a great girlfriend gift!).

Giving Great Girlfriend Gifts

Don't you love gifts from girlfriends who KNOW you and KNOW what you'd like? My friend Terri is that kind of girlfriend. Recently we were together (we live 750 miles apart) and, having November and December birthdays, we celebrated them in between. Neither of us have tons of money to purchase elaborate gifts, but that doesn't matter. What matters is that we KNOW each other - our likes, personalities and preferences.

It does help that we have common likes. We both love coffee (and always laugh over a day we both spilled coffee down our shirts at a seminar!). We love music, jewelry, dogs and wine. Good things to have in common!

But we also have different likes ... She is a fabulous cook and my husband does all the cooking in my home. I love to craft and she would rather craft out a great menu. Together I think we make a great pair!

For my birthday I received a cool coffee candle and I gave her a coffee cup to remind her of me. She gave me fabulous crystal earrings and I made her some sparkly candle holders. (I think she got the bad end on that deal!) As our tradition, she gave me an annual musical selection CD (love that!) and I gave her a Girlfriendology BFF apron from the Girlfriendology Store. (There are even more girlfriend gifts on Girlfriendology.com!)

I love my gifts and I love giving gifts to my wonderful BFF. The meal, of course, was perfect and the wine was fine! However, the best gift was just her friendship and spending time together.

The holidays are here as well as the season of giving girlfriend gifts. Consider your friends' favorite things, hobbies, personality. Look for unique ways to show female friends how special their friendship is to you. Maybe even make her something (visit GirlfriendologyToo for some ideas!) and/or wrap your gifts creatively to fit the them of your present or her personal style. Show her how much you appreciate the gift of her friendship!

P.S. There is only one day left to enter the current Girlfriendology Contest that (this month) asks the question: "What is the best gift you've received from or given to a girlfriend?" Go for it! You could take your girlfriend to Starbucks on Girlfriendology!

TIP TUESDAY #2 - Share your Holiday Tips with Girlfriends

Wow - can you believe Thanksgiving is a week from Thursday?!?! How does it sneak up so fast? Leaves are still turning and falling here in the mid-west and we even have the windows open tonight on Nov. 12th!

But, nonetheless, the holidays are here.

What favorite holiday tip do you have?

Maybe it is a shopping hint for a week from Friday? Or advice for not overdoing it on mashed potatoes and rolls at family dinners? Perhaps you have guidelines for spending time with your girlfriends, even when the holidays get hectic?

My tip? Since I make my own holiday cards (you can see some of them on the other Girlfriendology blog - www.girlfriendologyToo.blogspot.com - for the creative side of girlfriends), I often find myself super stressed trying to get everything done on time. I usually take projects with me in the car when my husband drives. (I've taken things to read, put together or even cut out - even with a big paper cutter, in the car!) I know it is a whimpy idea, but it helps me multi-task when in transit.

Okay, another one? I usually buy a bunch of hostess gifts early in the season to share when we visit our friends. Wine, candles, coffee, cookies - whatever might be a good treat for them to have around during the holidays. It just saves me time from rushing out frequently to find a rush gift.

Okay your turn! Remember, one of the great things about girlfriends is how we learn so much from each other. Just click on "comment" below and share your advice. And, don't let the holidays stress you out. Make sure and spend time with your girlfriends. Together you'll laugh, reduce your stress levels, be healthier and even live longer - which means you'll have even more time to enjoy your girlfriends! Happy Holidays! (Now, leave a TIP!)

p.s. Coming around Thanksgiving - more shopping for your girlfriends at www.girlfriendology.com! Get your shopping done then go hang out with your girlfriends!

Girlfriend Gear, Girlfriend Gifts ... from Girlfriendology

Women from Australia, UK, Philippines, Jamica, Israel, Indian, New Zealand, Canada, Japan, etc. have stopped by Girlfriendology recently. And why not? Having, inspiring, appreciating, supporting, celebrating and loving our girlfriends is universal. We all need our girlfriends!

Just in case you also need a gift for your girlfriend or you'd like to wear girlfriend gear, I just updated our Girlfriendology store. Stop by for a little girlfriend shopping ... shirts, mugs, greeting cards, bags, etc. We'd appreciate it!

(Thanks for letting me do a quick plug for Girlfriendology!)

ALSO, Girlfriendology will share our profits with women-oriented non-profits. Email us if you have a recommendation for causes/non-profits. Thanks!

We're the latest (and greatest!) trend!

The Atlanta America's Mart (Gift Mart) states that "girlfriend gifts are a leading trend that shows no sign of slowing down." Actually, I think they're missing the lifestyle trend that keeps going - that female friends value each other and want to show their appreciation for their girlfriends with gifts and attention. Does that surprise you?! No!

Female friends have a special bond that we biologically need - to spend time with and celebrate our girlfriends. That is what Girlfriendology is all about. Based on this, and my 'crafty' background, I have started a second blog to focus more on the creative side of Girlfriendology - GirlfriendologyToo which has ideas on girlfriend gifts and greetings you can make, as well as updates from the craft/hobby industry to keep up with materials, techniques and other trends.

And, in keeping with the trends, I'll be flying to Atlanta in September to go to the America's Mart and look for girlfriend gifts for Girlfriendology. A perfect girlfriend gift is already being designed for Girlfriendology by a top jewelry designer - Jill MacKay - she's a great girlfriend of mine. (Look for her jewelry findings in JoAnns stores, etc.!) And more fun things are coming!

Join in on the survey of your favorite gifts to give/receive from girlfriends. I'll share the results and any comments, ideas, great stories that you have to share. And celebrate your girlfriends with gifts and special events together!