Girlfriends, book club and conversation - always a great combination!

Last night was our neighborhood book club at my house. As Kris Radish said in her podcast recently, "most book clubs discuss the book for about ten minutes then they just drink wine, talk and laugh." Yep, that's our book club. And we're proud of it!

It is funny to sit back and watch this group of female friends. Some are closer friends than others, some only see each other at the monthly gathering of girlfriends. The age range varies, as does the book preference and appetizer/desert (homemade gourmet or local deli) contributions. We each have different opinions on books, city politics, grocery stores or favorite TV shows. It is the variety and differences that make us interesting and connects us.

I can tell when I've needed to talk or laugh, or when others need to. It seems to be predestined and perfect timing. We laugh, sometimes we cry, we share life. There is something so medicinal about spending time with female friends. Whatever stress is on your mind from the day, the realities of life disappear in the first glass of wine or diet pop. Shoulders release, guards drop and friendships grow just from a little 'girlfriend therapy.'

Do you have a girlfriend group? (Like the wonderful Kathy Cano-Murillo encouraged in her recent podcast?) Start a book club or a crafting group. Maybe just a lunch bunch that meets every last Friday of the month. Invite girlfriends over for brunch or watch a movie together. It isn't 'rocket surgery,'* just make a few calls and be the great girlfriend gathering instigator! Just do it!

* That was used in a movie once. Yep, a combo of 'rocket science' and 'brain surgery.' Not sure which movie but I love it!

Oprah's advice on Girlfriends, events, etc.

Across the couch from Oprah yesterday, she shared her thoughts for Girlfriendology and great ideas for girlfriend trips, events, website options, etc. I loved how she 'gets' Girlfriendology and how important it is for girlfriends to spend time together, support and encourage each other and celebrate our friendships.

No, I wasn't dreaming. I was just at a Halloween party and my friend Ellen was dressed as our favorite TV show host. Ellen, who actually has been on Oprah and was recently featured in O magazine (the issue shown above) for her emotional-eating coaching business, does share Oprah's commitment to the value of female friendships. We all know about Oprah and her best friend, Gayle. I know that Oprah and Gayle 'get' girlfriendology too. (I'll just patiently wait for the call from Harpo Productions, but it will come!)

At the party Ellen, Lydia, Colleen and Amy all asked about how things are going for Girlfriendology. I shared how the podcasts and web/blog traffic are growing and some of the exciting things that are coming. Then, out of their wonderful, caring friendships, they all offered ideas and support. I love when women 'get it' and are so supportive. It felt like being wrapped in hugs. Very comforting and warm on a chilly Fall evening.

Thanks Oprah (Ellen), Annie Oakley (Lydia), Maxwell Smart (Amy) and Shopping Charge Card (Colleen) for caring and sharing. I look forward to a lot of great ideas in '08 and having you along side as we adventure toward all of our dreams!

Talking Girlfriends with the Crafty Chica (aka: how to start a girlfriend group. Join in!)

Take seven crafty, creative, fun chicas and what do you get?! The Phoenix Fridas! That is the girlfriend group that "the Crafty Chica" KATHY CANO-MURILLO started with six other creative, Latina friends (who all just happen to admire Frida Kahlo and dig being creative!). They were even awarded the Best Latina Art Collective by the Phoenix New Times earlier this year - they're award-winning, crafty, cool, creative chicas!

Kathy talked with Girlfriendology today about her fun, creative girlfriend group on our weekly podcast. You have to listen! I was smiling during the whole conversation! Her creativity is contagious. Her enthusiasm for her girlfriends is gregarious. Her sweet, kind, encouraging spirit is just what a girlfriend longs to hear. She rocks!

Just to share a bit about Kathy, she really doesn't have time to talk with Girlfriendology - but of course she did! She was in CA working on her upcoming line of craft products (which I'm sure will be fabulous!). She recently wrote her first novel and has several creative/crafty books which inspire people all over the globe. She has designed home goods for Lowe's and has fun, funky jewelry on Target.com.

But she did. And, she is fabulous. Listen. Enjoy. Then get inspired and start your own girlfriend group. And, share your stories with Girlfriendology. Muchas Gracias Kathy! You're a real girlfriend!

Connecting with Girlfriends ... no matter the distance, time, changes

I've been MIA this week due to a quick trip to northern WI. Surrounded by beautiful autumn leaves, a calm but chilly Lake Superior and a lot of wildlife (including a wolf that my girlfriend Cara saw!), friends from OH, MI, MN and CO convened to connect after months up to five years of not seeing each other. It was a glorious gathering!

Isn't it funny how you can not see a girlfriend for literally years and you feel like you just saw her yesterday? I feel that way with my girlfriends on the trip, especially Lindy who is a dog lover and felt our pain through losing our sweet golden, Stella, two months ago. We cried together, laughed together, ate a lot together, just enjoyed being in the same room or on the same hiking trail together.

What is it about true friendship that bonds us to each other? Is it our commonalities? Or do we seek diversity and a different point of view? It isn't necessarily our ages - we had a 40 year range in our baker's dozen of friends on this trip and conversations were never limited to regional, age or other demographics. We don't all come from the same backgrounds - two teachers, several creatives, many entrepreneurs and a host of other characteristics. Our interests vary from sports to cultural events, crafts to reading, hiking to dancing. No one would have eHarmony'd us all to be great friends through years of change!

The Nigerian proverb tells us to "Hold a dear friend with both hands." Over time, distance, changes, differences ... friendships, especially between females, deserve to be cherished and celebrated. What a joy to experience beautiful friendships in such breath-taking surroundings. How sweet to walk beside a friend and learn from them, laugh with them, hold their hand and receive love and understanding from them.

Thanks Amy, Kate, Cara, Chondra, Jo, Aimee and Lindy for your love, support and friendship. May we have many more times in the future laughing, crying, sharing and just being ... together.

Real women, real clothes, real beauty, real girlfriends!

Rosie Molinary discussed (in our recent podcast) how women can build into each other and, through supporting and loving each other (unconditionally), we build our self esteem and self confidence. And, through doing this, we become better people - more caring health professionals, involved teachers, better partners and supporters of our community. We hold that power within us to reach our goals, dream BIG dreams and change the world - even if it is (like the Girlfriendology goal of improving the world:) one friendship at a time.

Sunday I attended the open house of my friend's new business. She is passionately pursuing her dream of designing and providing 'real clothes for real women.' With 25 years of apparel industry experience, she has put everything into making this dream a reality. Actually, a reality PLUS. Beth Anne (my dear friend) has started a business called RealityPlus - designer clothing for plus size women. (Check it out! Beautiful clothes and designed to fit real women and make you feel beautiful! Please tell your girlfriends about it.Isn't this jacket stunning?!)

Today at lunch we celebrated the initial response to her line and her plans to grow. We talked about the goal of her company - not only to make women feel good about themselves but also to support organizations to help others locally, nationally and internationally. She is passionate and caring - about those that she knows and loves and those she'll never even meet.

I told her about Rosie's lessons on beauty from our interview. Funny how these two women who have never met, share the same principles and passions for helping women better their lives through self esteem and confidence, through acceptance and community.

Beth Anne and Rosie inspire me - and I hope they inspire you. As Rosie said, "Support your girlfriends - give compliments, help them see their beauty, celebrate their successes with them." Thanks Rosie and Beth Anne. I think you just inspired other women to follow in your foot steps of following your dreams and making the world a better place!

What is beauty and how do we build into our girlfriends' self esteem? Ask Rosie!

As I mentioned in the podcast today with author Rosie Molinary, I believe one of the greatest things about girlfriends is learning from/with each other. I learned a lot from reading about and then talking with Rosie today.

She is articulate and passionate. She listens to the voices of women and inspires conversations that challenge us and force us to take an active role in mentoring and championing our 'sisters' (aka: girlfriends). She made me rethink how I perceive others, and myself. Powerful stuff. And then there is her book! - Hijas Americanas: Beauty, Body Image and Growing Up Latina.

Listen to the podcast. Comment on your thoughts. Then, apply it to your lives. As we improve our self esteem, as we accept and appreciate our body image, as we help other women do the same, we make the world better. That's a good world! Thanks Rosie for inspiring me and all of us!

Not a dating site ... but open to celebrating female friendships!

Recently a few guys have stopped by Girlfriendology. Everyone is welcome, although it primarily is a place for "inspiration, appreciation and celebration of girlfriends." My guess is that they (a) do appreciate the friendships they have with women (one is trying to get back with his wife, so perhaps he found the site helpful in showing her appreciation and being her best friend?), (b) they long to find strong, caring friendships like women often have or (c) are confused and looking for a girlfriend! (Sorry guys! Not here!)

In Kris Radish's podcast last week she mentioned that, although her booksare centered around women finding their strength and experiencing adventures with their female friends, she too is getting a male following.

Keeping with our guy theme, my husband gets this girlfriend thing. He sees how much my female friends bless, support, inspire me. He understands why I am pursuing Girlfriendology with a passion for inspiring women all over the world to build, value and celebrate their female friends. (I credit his grasp of the wonderful world of female friendship to being raised by a mom and three sisters!) He even joked that maybe he would start "Boyfriendology" - right!

Shelley Taylor's book, The Tending Instinct, discusses how children look to women for tending, men look to women for tending and women look to women for tending. (It is a great book if you're interesting in learning more!) Actually, it is part of our gender DNA to develop friendships with women - no matter if we're female or male.

So, men - thanks for joining us at Girlfriendology. Feel free to visit and comment (or buy gifts for your female friends, listen to podcasts, etc.). Everyone is welcome here at Girlfriendology.

All that said ... women, girls, wives, daughters, sisters, best friends, BFFs, girlfriends - you're the inspiration for Girlfriendology and for that I thank you! Today's a great day to make a friend, meet a friend, call a friend, be a friend. Thanks girlfriends!

P.S. Just a girl-friendly reminder ...It is almost half way through October and the first Girlfriendology Contest is bringing in some great stories on girlfriends. Don't miss out! Share a story about your best friend and possibly win coffee at Starbucks with her on Girlfriendology. Not only do you get time together with her, but we'll spotlight the wonderful gift of her friendship on the blog to recognize her. Join in girlfriend!

Girl Scouts, Rosie Molinary and Self Esteem (we NEED our girlfriends!)

Tuesday night my girlfriend Penny asked me to teach her Girl Scouts. (She LOVED that Kris Radish mentioned Girl Scouts as a way to form female friendships in our recent podcast!) Somewhat under the guise of teaching beading techniques, we really focused on having our own individual style and expressing it through beading, art, music, etc. It was a fun evening and I think all of us 'girls' learned a lot together.

I've been recently introduced to Rosie Molinary. Rosie is an author and teacher. She has recently written a book - Hijas Americanas - Beauty, Body Image and Growing Up Latina. We're honored to interview Rosie for our next podcast.

Did you know that having girlfriends (for young or not-so-young women) is important to your self esteem? We'll discuss this with Rosie in the coming week. What questions do you have for her? What would you like to hear about in our next podcast? Let us know at info@girlfriendology.com.

Just like those great Girl Scouts and their individual style, and Rosie and the lessons we'll learn about female friendships, girlfriends are not only fun but they're also important. Spend time with your girlfriends. Make a new friend. Learn from each other. Hug. Thanks girlfriends!

Do you remember your mother's friends? Did she have great girlfriends?

My recent podcast with Kris Radish included her memories of her own mother and her girlfriends, laughing, smoking, cocktailing together. Even if my mother didn't do that, I now wish she had!

After listening, my girlfriend Colleen (my walking girlfriend with my other friend Allison), wrote me:

By the way, I listened to your podcast with Kris the other day while eating lunch. I really enjoyed it...especially the part when she was talking about her mom and her mom's girlfriends. It reminded me of something that I had not thought of for so long and just made me so happy. My mom died so young and has been gone for 23 years now. Mom and her friends used to sit around our kitchen table laughing so hard and wiping away tears from laughing. I remember as a kid thinking --- What could those old women think is THAT funny? They would laugh and talk for hours. What a hoot.

Thanks Kris for that walk down memory lane that Colleen hadn't taken in years. It really was a blessing to her.

Do you remember your mom and her girlfriends? Did they laugh? Smoke? Sneak cocktails? Bitch about life?!

Be the kind of girlfriend you'd like your daughters to be. Take time for your girlfriends. Show them how important they are to you. Make memories for your daughters that will influence them for life.

Thanks Colleen! Thanks again Kris! Girlfriends deserve thanks, attention and love. Show it!

Girlfriend Groups - do you have one?

I planned not to go to my girlfriend group tonight. My web guy was supposed to meet with me on some updates so I cancelled the group - then he cancelled our meeting. My friend Tina called me right after I got his email, while I was still extremely frustrated with him. (He hasn't been easy to work with! I knew I should have hired a woman!) She was going to our girlfriend group and talked me into going, even if I was late.

What a great thing that was! We laughed, caught up on life, had some wine, shared our lives. All the stress disappeared as the friendships (and laughter) brought me back to the good things in life - girlfriends, good friends, people who love you and whom you love. Life is good. Girlfriends are great.

Do you have a girlfriend group? What is the basis of it - an activity? Something you have in common? A book club or garden group? Croppers or knitters? Spinners or yoga goddesses?! Having a group of women to support you is vital to your happiness, stability, patience with other things in life and your self confidence*.

Thanks Tina for calling and for prompting me to come to our group tonight. (Thanks too to Paula for hosting! Becky for feeding! and Judy for sharing and for listening to and enjoying the Kris Radish podcast!) Let Girlfriendology know about your group. Why is it special to you? What do you recommend in starting a girlfriend group?

If you don't have a girlfriend group, maybe you should start one. Make 'no stress' rules and invite your girlfriends to bring others. I'm sure you'll find them the perfect way to de-stress your day. Share your thoughts on comments or email ideas@girlfriendology.com. And keep meeting. Keep inspiring. Keep appreciating and keep celebrating girlfriends. Life is good. Girlfriends are great. (Thanks Tina - and Paula, Becky and Judy!)

*Join our next podcast for information on how having girlfriends affects your self esteem. Any questions on this subject, please let Girlfriendology know!

Podcast of interview with best-selling author KRIS RADISH

October 5, 2007: Cincinnati, OH Kris Radish, author of best-selling books such as THE ELEGANT GATHERING OF THE WHITE SNOWS, DANCING NAKED AT THE EDGE OF DAWN, ANNIE FREEMAN'S FABULOUS TRAVELING FUNERAL and THE SUNDAY LIST OF DREAMS talked with Girlfriendology on her books, life and, most of all, her thoughts on girlfriends. AND, Kris shared a FIRST with Girlfriendology - an introduction to the women (and men) we'll meet in her upcoming book SEARCHING FOR PARADISE IN PARKER, PA.

Join us as Kris answers questions submitted by Girlfriendology newsletter subscribers. Thanks Kris! Thanks girlfriends!

PODCAST: Girlfriendology interviews Author KRIS RADISH

Celebrating life with Girlfriends - it doesn't get any better!

My girlfriend Jill had a good week. Her website launched www.jillmackay.com with her amazing jewelry elements and findings. She found out that her current jewelry designs are selling out in Joann's, Michaels, Wal-mart, etc. - and they want more! And she's going international!!! (She is prolific at creating beautiful beading elements!) It was a good week!

I called her to find out how things went and together we celebrated her successes. Unfortunately we don't live in the same town or state, but that doesn't matter. We shouted joyfully and laughed loudly - it was a full-blown long distance celebration! I couldn't be more happy for her if it were myself. I love when good things happen to my girlfriends!

On Friday I had the opportunity and honor to interview author Kris Radish. My girlfriend Judy loaned me her house while she was out of town to make the call from. (Quiet and close!) My girlfriend Tina called me right before the call to tell me she was praying for me. And, my girlfriends and several Girlfriendology Newsletter subscribers sent in GREAT questions for Kris. (Great questions! I had too many but that was perfect!)

The interview went well. I loved Kris' energy and passion for her girlfriends. I loved the questions girlfriends provided and her inspiring responses. My girlfriend Joyce even wrote me that the podcast inspired her to hold on to and allow her power to make her stronger.

When I got home from my entrepreneurial girlfriends meeting yesterday (another group of inspiring, passionate women!), I had a message from Jill. She had listened to the podcast and was celebrating how well it went. Her friendship, love and joy for me are more than I deserve and I know that I am forever blessed because I know and love her. I called her back and again, for the second time this week, we celebrated together. (Our neighbors probably even heard the celebration!)

Be happy for your friends and their successes. Share their joy and make the moments memorable. Celebrate together. Celebrate the gift of your friendship. Celebrate loudly - locally or long distance. Celebrate girlfriends. It doesn't get any better than that!

Interviewing KRIS RADISH - Today!

Later today I will have the honor of speaking with Kris Radish, author of great girlfriend books, like her first girlfriend book - The Elegant Gathering of White Snows, to her NEWEST book - The Sunday List of Dreams and to the books in between - check them out!

I'm excited to talk with her and know it will be an energetic, fun and inspiring conversation. I'm recording it for a podcast which will be available to newsletter subscribers first - so SIGN UP!

And, if you have any questions for Kris, send them to info@girlfriendology.com.

Thanks girlfriends!

Reading and preparing for KRIS RADISH - what would YOU ask her?

A bit awkward in the introductions in "Notting Hill," Honey - the 'squiggly eyed' sister of William (Hugh Grant) tells Anna Scott (Julia Robert), "I genuinely believe, and have believed for some time now, that we can be best friends."

I'm not trying to make Kris Radish, my best friend, but I do believe she is a best friend to so many, many fans. Her over half-million books in print tell tales of women finding their strength, learning from their girlfriends and growing along the way. And, anyone that can share that message, well, she's a best friend of mine!

Kris travels all over the globe speaking on women's issues, friendships and politics. She speaks to and for women. Her new book, The Sunday List of Dreams is flying off shelves. Her loyal readers are exploring their dreams through her words. And, she has graciously agreed to be interviewed by Girlfriendology this week.

So, here's the BIG interview question. What would YOU like me to ask Kris Radish? Do you want to know about her girlfriends, her background, what's ahead? Email info@girlfriendology.com and share you questions and comments for our favorite girlfriend author. Like Honey, I may be a bit awkward introducing myself, but I know I'll meet a best friend. Who needs Hugh Grant when you have great girlfriends?!